Have you ever had one of those days? You know the kind I mean, the ones where you just never want it to end. I have to be honest I have been privileged to enjoy far more of those blessed days than I should have any right to claim. When these days happen, most of us have a tendency to hold them too tightly. I mean that because we want to extract every last ounce of sweet nectar from those short 24 hours, we can at times self-sabotage and miss the pleasure of just being.
I am very guilty of this. I tend to want to relive that moment again and again so much that I miss out on the beauty of the next moment. Or I entirely miss out on the joy of being in the moment at all, and it is stolen from me by the fear of impending day’s end.
I just had one of these days, and though yes, I didn’t want it to end, one of the things I’ve been working on is mindfulness. Living in the moment and being mindful go hand in hand with an adventurous life. We can never fully recognize our adventures without being mindful, and we can never fully enjoy our adventures without living in the moment. Both are necessary to appreciate and live adventurously.
When we hold onto a moment too tightly, however, we miss something. We miss the beauty of the temporal state we are experiencing.
Just being present with people you love (or even at times alone) can be the difference between a great day and a forgettable one. The more we learn to stay present in whatever moment we find ourselves in, the more we will see the adventure we seek is right before us.
I have added meditation to my daily routine, and by doing this I’ve been able to practice mindfulness and remain present in each current moment. The beautiful thing is that through this entire day, I didn’t even realize I was being mindful. It just starts to happen as you practice more, the more naturally you will find yourself enjoying your present hour.
As my day has come to a close, I began my daily ruminations. I became sad, almost morose at the thought that today is over and it would not come again. I was then reminded that part of being mindful and present in each moment means appreciating the day’s transience.
I was rereading a friend’s postcard that I had read earlier in the day. In this postcard she lamented that the day on which she wrote to me was gloomy and dark. She then said, however, “It’s these days that make the sunny ones sweeter.”
It’s these days that make the sunny ones sweeter.
These short words reminded me to appreciate my sweeter day for all it is, including the fact that it is not permanent. I was sad that my day had to end, but like all things in life we often won’t appreciate what we have if we never know what it is like to go without it. So my friend’s words stick in my brain as a reminder to remain present. They teach me to stay present even unto the day’s end.
There is a bitterness to mindfulness because there will never again be a day exactly like this one. It is easy and even tempting to let that reality make us grow sad or angry when the day closes, but without this day’s end we would never know days that make this one sweeter. Impermanence is part and parcel of an adventurous life.